Project Cornerstone - The OK Book
Tue, May 19 8:18pm

Dear Addison Families,

This month’s Project Cornerstone book is The OK Book, by Amy Kraus Rosenthal and Tom Lichtenheld. Below is a summary of the book followed by some questions to discuss. We've also made suggestions for activities to do as a family. Ms Ohanian has included her own OK Book at the end of her narration (https://youtu.be/5Ki69H6r4qA). It's a great way for children to document this historic time. Ms Ohanian has added a link to the reading in Schoology, under the Addison Library tab (Project Cornerstone folder).

Have fun trying something new—we’d love to hear what new activities you enjoy!

Patty Dhillon and Roberta Pinheiro
Project Cornerstone Co-Leads

  

Project Cornerstone - May Book and Lesson
The OK Book, by Amy Kraus Rosenthal and Tom Lichtenheld

Developmental Assets: Positive Identity, Self Esteem, Positive View of Personal Future, Adult Role Models

Addison Life Skills:

Courage: To do the right thing, even when it is not easy or popular, as well as to be brave in times of worry or fear

Resilience: To remain optimistic and bounce back quickly from hard times.

SummaryThe OK Book shows the cleverly illustrated OK Kid trying lots of new things. Even though he’s not good at everything he tries, he has fun trying. He knows that’s how he’ll find out what he really enjoys.

This book focuses on resilience, the ability to bounce back and recover from adversity. Resilience is built upon seven building blocks: competence, confidence, support, positive values, contribution to others, coping strategies, and personal power. Using the building blocks of resiliency as a cornerstone, youth will be better prepared to overcome the challenges of new and difficult experiences.

The goals of the lesson include:

  • Developing a growth mindset that embraces trying new things.
  • Being “OK” with enjoying, while pursuing mastery.
  • Finding joy in discovering new sparks and interests.
  • Learning from mistakes to develop resiliency.
  • Turning “I can’t” (reactive) attitudes into “I can” (proactive) attitudes. 

Discussion:
Discuss being proactive and choosing how to respond to difficult situations. A proactive attitude is one that focuses on things that we have control over, like our responses and attitudes. Help your student continue positive self-talk by promoting and modeling the following phrases:

  • I'll try it or I'll do it- Tap into your creative thoughts. Look at things you’re interested in. Give it a try!
  • I can do better if I try again- Practice skills that are needed to do something new.
  • I can't _________ yet- Learning or doing something new can take time and multiple tries.
  • Let's look at all our options- Break the activity into small steps. Try each step.
  • I choose to- Ask for help from a friend or caring adult 

After reading the book or listening to the narration, discuss some of the following questions:

  • What activities does the OK Kid try?
  • What activities have you tried during our shelter in place order?
  • How have you used resilience to adapt to sheltering in place?
  • Do you like to try new things?
  • What things are easy for you to do?
  • What are some things that need lots of practice?
  • What kind of positive self-talk (Growth Mindset) can you tell yourself the next time something is hard?
  • Have you ever tried something even though you didn’t think you’d like it? What happened?
  • What is something you haven’t tried that you would like to try?
  • How would you finish the sentence "I am an OK______."

Activities you can do at home:

  • The OK Charades Game
    • Have your child act out something he/she is good at and something new he/she wants to try. Family members guess the activity.
  • The OK Book
    • Your child can make their own OK book. For the cover, have them write their name and OK Book (i.e. John's OK Book by John Smith). Draw pictures of what they're OK at doing.
  • Be the OK Kid!
    • Try something new! Juggle (start with Kleenex), play jacks, yo-yo, frisbee, hula hoop. This is something everyone in the family can try!

 

 

Querido Padre/Madre/Tutor:

The OK Book escrito por Amy Krouse Rosenthal y Tom Lichetenheld. OK Kid le encanta intentar muchas cosas diferentes. Aún cuando él no es bueno en todo lo que intenta, se divierte tratando, porque sabe que así va a llegar a descubrir para lo que es realmente bueno.” El OK Kid disfruta intentando cosas nuevas, ¡aún cuando él sea solamente OK (ni bueno-ni malo) al hacerlas!

Su apoyo y confianza les da a sus hijos la libertad de explorar, intentar cosas nuevas y darse cuenta de lo que realmente les gusta hacer. El creer en la habilidad de cambiar y crecer se llama mentalidad de crecimiento. Su actitud con respecto al cambio, al tomar riesgos, al intentar cosas nuevas y el decidir ser solamente OK en algo que disfrutamos hacer, le va a dar la pauta a su hijo(a) de si está bien –OK ser solamente OK.

Forjar la capacidad de recuperación –resistencia- y autorregulación, son habilidades difíciles de adquirir. Al experimentar con nuevas experiencias, los jóvenes tienen oportunidad de practicar el enfrentarse con distintas frustraciones, salir adelante durante los momentos difíciles y obtener satisfacción con el tiempo. Al practicar una mentalidad de crecimiento, usted les está demostrando que cree en ellos y en su capacidad para explorar y crecer.

También hablamos de una actitud proactiva o de “Yo puedo.” Este enfoque optimista de intentar cosas nuevas, le permite a la juventud practicar para centrarse en las cosas en las que ellos tienen control; como su actitud para intentar cosas nuevas. Por favor anime a su hijo(a) a utilizar palabras positivas de aliento al practicar y ser usted mismo el ejemplo utilizando las siguientes frases; y notando, nombrando y celebrando a su hijo(a) cuando él/ella utilicen frases y actitudes positivas como las siguientes:

  • Lo voy a intentar 
  • ¡Voy a hacerlo! 
  • Yo puedo hacerlo mejor, si lo intento de nuevo… 
  • Vamos tomando en cuenta todas nuestras opciones… 
  • Yo decido… 
  • Tiene que existir la forma de…

Si usted escucha lenguaje reactivo (No puedo), pídale a su hijo(a) que vuelva a redactar la declaración para que sea una declaración preventiva. Practique con su hijo(a) el cambiar el “No puedo” en un “¡Lo voy a intentar!” Celebre el riesgo, el esfuerzo y la capacidad de recuperación que se necesita para intentar algo nuevo y desafiante.